Greta Inez Smith

Author | Motivational Speaker | Christian Life Coach

5 Lies Culture Tells Christian Singles Again

 As societal power grows inside the church, Christian singles have become as numbed to premarital sex as the rest of the world. Christlike values have taken a back seat to mainstream media. Who doesn’t know unmarried Christians who indulge in  sex or porn?

Christian singles have taken on the attitude of the world when it comes to sex. They indulge without regret. Being single is a great privilege and responsibility for God.

There is no shame in keeping God’s word and preserving your sexual purity. Sex outside of marriage leads to many unwanted issues, such as:

  • Pregnancy
  • STD’s
  • Sexual abuse
  • and other problems as well



  But we must remember that God who loves us and created the beautiful act of sex, is also the final judge on it’s use and purpose.  


Here is a video from Covenant Eyes that talks about lies society tells  singles about sex.


How to Live Single and Christian


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How To Live Single and Christian

Being a single woman and a Christian can easily become stressful once you discover on your own along with urges and sexual thoughts, and have actually no place to put them. Single individuals of any type of age can easily regularly feel guilt as they attempt to walk the line between faith and desire. I failed much and felt the shame of that failure over and over. Exactly how could I live a life of purity? Why couldn’t I get hold of sex off the brain?

As I learned a lot more of the bible, I stopped dating and stopped having premarital sex. At that time, I equated dating along with sex. I decided to attempt a life of purity. My spirit was willing, yet my flesh was weak. I was no longer seeing anybody, yet I was aching for bodily intimacy. So I started to fantasize and masturbate to fill the void. The problem is that fantasies are not real. Once you have actually had release, you are alone and lonely. Being a single Christian woman was something I hated and didn’t understand Exactly how to deal with. In church, I heard concerning the points that I couldn’t do. I felt that I was going to die alone! I was angry and bitter for years. Everybody told me Exactly how to live a a single woman, yet no one could tell me Exactly how Not to be miserable!

God To The Rescue

Being single and Christian was not the genuine problem. Satan earned me focus so a lot on just what I was missing, that I failed to see just what I had. God had not left me alone and miserable. My being a single person was not a curse or punishment to endure until I could be rescued through marriage. Click To Tweet Since I was seeking, the Holy Spirit gave me the answers I required to live a life of purity and passion. I learned that there is nothing wrong along with me for feeling as I do. I’m not some Christian failure and neither are you. Here are three pointers to recommendations you navigate your sexual desire and to preserve you focused on faith.


Accept that God made your sexual desire and it is GOOD. Your desire is a result of biology and is perfectly healthy. You are a girl and you desire boys. That is healthy. It’s not healthy, however, to pretend that you do not have actually urges. Despite the fact that your urges are natural, it does not mean that you should act on them. Sex was made for marriage. And once the time is right, you will certainly get hold of to experience sex along with your spouse, for the 2 procreation and pleasure. God never ever meant being single and Christian to lead to stress or guilt.


Prayer is the most powerful weapon in the Christian arsenal. We have actually the privilege to call on our loving God that hears every whispered plea. He knows our heartache and those points we want the most. Ask God through prayer to recommendations you through this period in your life. The bible says so a lot concerning the electricity of prayer. Matthew 21:22 says, “If you believe, you will certainly receive whatever you ask for in prayer.” John 15:7 says, “If you continue to be in me and my words continue to be in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will certainly be done for you.” God hears you.Ask Your man for help.

Be Vocal

Believe me once I say that you are not the only one going through this and not the last. In my experience, most single Christians are avoiding the topic. They are having sex. They simply don’t talk concerning it. begin a dialog along with somebody of faith that is transparent and will certainly not judge you. all of Christians have actually had a season of singleness. Everybody has actually struggled. Talking concerning your issue allows you to . I have actually a group of faith filled friends that listen to me. I can easily tell them anything. They recommendations me concentrate on the points of God. Don’t be afraid to let individuals understand that you struggle. It can easily open a door for them to admit their own struggles.

Being single and Christian is a terrific season for you. It gives you time to concentrate on the points of God and not worry concerning pleasing a spouse. It gets tricky dealing along with sexual wishes and faith. By accepting your urges, seeking God’s help, and being vocal concerning your struggle you can easily discover balance and peace.

How are you coping along with the 2 single and Christian? just what are your biggest obstacle in dealing along with sexual desire? I would certainly like to hear your thoughts!

Sex and Single Christians

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sex and single christiansMany people believe that once you become a Christian all of your problems disappear, and that you live in some utopian bliss that’s reserved for those called to Christ. They seem to believe that you will remain that way until Jesus calls you from labor to reward.


The reality is that salvation does NOT make you deaf dumb and blind to your past. In fact, that’s just when Satan jumps into the fray, and begins to assault your brand new faith. He causes you to look wistfully at those things you’ve had to give up and makes you blind to all that you are gaining by letting go of the world.

Sex and Single Christians

Single Christians have a harder time, I think, adjusting to a new life in Christ. There are things in their pasts that may still hold some appeal. My biggie? Sex.

Yes, single Christians are to refrain from having sex outside the bonds of marriage and to remain chaste in body and mind until such time. Yep, Bummer.

I like sex, at least what I remember of it. I thought it was the best thing since sliced bread, and really couldn’t fathom having to give it up. I mean, God created sex for mankind’s enjoyment. He must have known that we would take Him up on His gift. Right? So at the beginning of my life in Christ, I became fixated on sex, and on the fact that I could no longer have it. Being single and Christian got complicated. Fast.

I became fixated on the fact that I could not have sex, as a Christian single adult. So naturally, I started to have lots of it. I knew, from my studies, that sin separates us from God. It’s because it’s the exact opposite of His nature. He hates it. (Psalms 5:4) He’s holy, and it’s what He’s known for. (Isaiah 6:3) I thoroughly abused my religious freedom in Christ. I abused the gift of grace for my pleasure. The guilt, however, soon started to catch up with me. I knew that my sinful actions hindered my fellowship God. God is absolutely holy. To have fellowship with Him, is to walk in the light, as He is in the light. I kept telling myself that I as soon as I got the hang of being single and Christian, everything would work out. I just needed time to get sex out of my system, then I would repent and things would be OK. Yeah.

On Singles Ministry

Though having sex regularly, I still went to church, participated in the Christian singles ministry, I sang songs, paid my tithes and took communion. The ministries encouraged us to surround ourselves with Christian friends, and date Christian men and women. I soon found out that there were a few single Christians, like me, who had trouble maintaining their purity. I was going to the singles ministry meetings hoping to find my soul mate, someone who would marry me and take away my guilt. I lived a life outwardly as one who had overcome the world, but my life had never stopped being what it was before I gave my life to Christ.

So why don’t singles ministries address the problem of sexual purity? It felt like a taboo subject. No one ever posed any questions, and the ministry leader never brought it up. I mean, I get all the ‘Thou Shalt Not’ references in scripture, but it just seems that as a single Christian, someone would be honest about their own struggle with celibacy.

On the Consequences

Again, I never stopped attending church or participating in any activities. As I listened to sermons and read my bible, I begin to understand the plan God has for His children. Satan made me feel as if my old life was better than the one I was pursuing. I felt that those, who were outside of the body of Christ, were in fact free and I was a slave.

The Holy Spirit was working with me and began to show me what sex outside of a covenant relationship was doing in my life. I kept studying the word of God and read scriptures on sexual immorality, and the Holy Spirit revealed what that sin was doing to me. He brought out my true motives for having sex, and how that affected aspects of my life. He taught me that:

  • I felt compelled to have sex. I thought that I had to have sex with a man to catch him and to keep him. If I refused- He walked away.
  • It caused emotional scars. Sexual relations without the benefit of marriage, took its emotional toll on me. Having sex just to keep a man lowers your self-esteem and confidence.
  • It jeopardized my physical health. I wasn’t always smart about sexual health and didn’t always take precautions.
  • It ruined my testimony. I could not share my faith with the men I dated. They didn’t take me seriously, especially after sex… None that I know of have accepted Jesus as their Savior. I have always wondered if I’m directly responsible for that.

I stopped having sex- eventually. The Holy Spirit’s direction led me to real understanding about the wonders of sex in its proper place. I learned about God’s intent for sex and marriage and how He blesses us as we submit to His plan for us. Stick around as I show what scripture taught me about holy sex, and follow me on my journey of divine development in Single Saved and No Sex-Period Part 2


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